Do your kids read your blogs??? Apparently mine does. I knew that he would occasionally look over my shoulder, but I didn't realize he would comb through it. No problem, right? Wrong. Especially when I had recently written a post all about whether to tell Big Boy #1 The Truth.
This afternoon, he came to me asking if Santa was real. He had just read my blog and was trying to figure out what I meant when I said "Big Boy #1 recently turned 10 years old. And he still believes. And I'm not sure what to do about it." Right next to a big picture of him sitting on Santa's lap.
So I came clean. BB1 is totally fine. You could see his mind working a million miles a minute. He kept asking questions like "Did you make that grocery store thing?" "Do you eat the cookies?" "Is that why you always stay up late on Christmas Eve?" After each answer he would get a little smile and say "That's so cool!"
But it's killing me. I want the magic just a bit longer. I was on the verge of tears, and BB1 was smiling. Of course, we made him swear to the Universal Law of Secrecy, and I'm pretty sure he's good. We're going to let him stay up late tomorrow and fill stockings. He's thrilled. Me? I just hate this part of growing up.
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It is funny how things come about. It is to bad you couldn't get away with just one more Christmas. It is great that he is excited and impressed with all that you have done to make it special for him for past Christmas'. I am sure happy to wait for those questions.
Oh that does suck, but I have always found that my 10 year olds really know they just want so bad for me to deny it still.
Well it does open a new chapter in your life though, cuz I have always had the kids who no longer believe in Santa, become Santa (with me). In a weird way, I think they love that more, cuz they get to make their siblings happy. Which in itself is ironic since they don't make their siblings happy on a normal day!!!:) jk
Merry Christmas!!! and good luck!!
As I am reading my DS is looking over my shoulder, so had to turn the computer around and read. It is so sad when the magic ends though. My mother always told me that Santa is the Spirit of Christmas along with the obvious!! I am always a little disappointed when there isn't a little "something" from Santa for my under the tree. sniff, sniff
Ok, that was me that deleted my comment. How do you all write a clear sentence without coffee? Sheesh...
Anyways, I was saying that it is better he at least learned the truth close to home on your blog INSTEAD of from some punk kid at school or some sneaky kid at church (not that your church has such kids, mine does). Because they wouldn't have had the facts...only what they THINK they know about Santa. It's always better to have "the talk" with your parents first so you have the truth...not the kid version of the truth. :)
And so a new chapter begins at your house. Celebrate it...you've got a new member on your Santa Squad and since he is the "big brother" I'm thinking he's going to embrace the giving part of Santa magic just as much as he enjoyed the receiving part of it pre-blog discovery!
Merry Christmas to ya'll!
I love that he is going to help you out tonight! What a great idea! Even though my kids don't believe I still make them go to bed early since I'm a last minute wrapper and love watching old movies while I wrap in peace.
Love Martha's comment about the coffee thing! To answer: "We don't!" I'm sorry this is so upsetting to you. Maybe you could sit on Santa's lap and he could make it all better.
Wait, he doesn't read comments too, does he?
What is wrong with me? I had decided probably before my daughter was born that if I lied to her (or didn't tell her the truth, especially when asked), I would be teaching her to lie. And I wanted her to be able to be honest, no matter how big or small the situation.
When she was six and told me she didn't think Santa was real, I was honest and told her she was right. But, if she didn't tell anyone else and blow it for them, he would still bring her gifts. There are ways of getting the point across.
My daughter has been able to say to me, "Mom, you are probably not going to be happy about this, but I did this....." When she would broach a topic like that, we were able to discuss what she had done wrong and how she could rectify it.
I'm just into being honest, because I think honesty brings honesty, lies bring lies, white lies bring white lies, fables bring fables, however you want to look at it or whatever you want to call it, however you want to sugar coat it.
My daughter works for a very well known corporation and made a BIG mistake at work. She went into her boss and told him, "I made a mistake." and detailed it out for him. She did this as soon as she realized she had made the mistake. She didn't wait for him to talk to her about it. He was absolutely amazed that she could tell on herself, own her mistake and she earned HUGE respect from him. I am so proud of her.
In all of this, I mean no disrespect, not meaning this as a put-down.
I just want to put out a bigger picture of what and how we teach our children. A ten year old finding out that Santa isn't REAL, in my books isn't that big of a deal. It seems to have been a bigger deal for you, than for him. Many, many, many children learn this at a much younger age. The typical age is 5 or 6.
Food for thought!
hmmm, Maybe I'd pay more attention to that last post if it wasn't written by Anonymous...LOL! You know how poltroons bug the heck out of me.
My oldest knows the "truth" also, but she totally plays along with her sister about Santa. She was the first one jumping under the covers the other night when I announced that NORAD had Santa on the radar over West Virginia. Squeals from above my head let me know that the excitement was at a fever pitch... and they promptly kicked daddy out of the room and dismissed him from his tucking duties so they could get to sleep.
She also seemed pleased when I answered her questions (almost a year and a half ago - she's a bit analytical that one, always trying to figure things out), but she will still tell you she believes. Because I told her that we all still believe in the magic of Christmas.
but there's magic in what you do as parents and that's going to mean more to him then anything!
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