Sunday, June 29, 2008
Wednesday, June 25, 2008
I say "sorta" because that other man was in Europe serving a mission for our church. While we had dated seriously my freshman year at BYU, the extent of our contact for the previous year and a half consisted of nothing more than letters. But he was due home that summer. I was ready to move forward with Diamond, but he wanted me to be absolutely sure I was making the right choice. Diamond didn't want me to realize that I really loved the other guy after getting engaged to him.
So Diamond made me wait until the Missionary came home.
In July the Missionary showed up on my doorstep (as Mormon missionaries are prone to do.) Diamond was working that summer in Idaho while I was taking summer classes. There was no Diamond anywhere within 500 miles and my old boyfriend was standing at the door. Looking really cute.
To be honest, I hadn't expected to feel anything for the Missionary. I was so in love with Diamond that it never occurred to me that I would even be capable of feeling anything for him. (Did I mention the really cute part?)
The next night the Missionary was still in town and we were hanging out at my apartment when Diamond called. I talked with him for a bit, but then told him that the Missionary was there and I was being rude. I asked Diamond to call me the next night. When I went back inside, the Missionary proceeded to tell me that he still loved me. Then he tried to kiss me. I freaked out and started crying. It was so much more complicated then I had anticipated.
Later that same night I was lamenting to my friend about the situation. She asked me if I knew if I wanted to marry Diamond or not. Diamond is a good man with a great work ethic. He is kind, devoted and so funny. I knew I wanted to spend the rest of forever with him. Without a doubt. Then she asked "Then what are you doing?" Hmm. Good question.
So I sat the Missionary down and told him that while I was curious about what might happen if we were to get serious again, I knew I was supposed to be with Diamond. Really, what more was there to say?
The next afternoon I called Diamond parents in Idaho. I asked if it would be OK for me to drive up and surprise him. "He's a wreck." Diamond's dad told me. "Get on the next plane. I'll pay for the ticket." I was on my way to the airport an hour later.
Meanwhile, Diamond was trying to call me and I wasn't there to answer my phone. (Remember the days before cell phones?) He was convinced that I was off with the Missionary and would be dumping him before the weekend was over.
So when I walked into his room a few hours later, he was beyond surprised. We both started crying and were looking at diamond rings the next day. We were engaged by August and married the next spring.
(Photo taken right after Diamond proposed - 8/26/93)
With all the new information I've been privy to lately, I've been thinking a lot about that pivotal week in my life. I was lucky enough to have two really great guys who wanted to be with me. As I look back, I absolutely and with complete certainty, know that I made the right choice. I love my husband with all of my heart. I love my children. I love my life.
Why do I tell this story now? I happened upon the blog of that Missionary just the other day. I've been visiting the site and having tremendous amounts of fun learning about him and his family. He's done really well. He seems to be very successful and appears to be the fun, creative guy I cared about so many years ago.
If time travel could bring me back to that week, I wouldn't think twice about getting on that plane again to go see Diamond. I would choose him again and again.
Sunday, June 22, 2008
It's formalized spoiling.
Big Boy #2 is turning 7 this week and was able to have his Special Day on Saturday. He had been planning it for months. He started out with a breakfast of chocolate chips pancakes at Nanna and Grandpa's house.
Of course there was a game of baseball on the wii. (BB#2 won.)
Then off to the bowling alley. (Granpa won.)
Then home to make clay bowl in Nanna's kiln and dinner at Red Robbin - complete with singing waiters and ice-cream.
The thing that I find so interesting about these Special Day's is that there usually isn't anything SO outrageously amazing about them. Our family goes bowling on occasion, and certainly playing the wii and eating out are a regular part of our lives. Often the boys will opt to just play games with Nanna and Grandpa or go swimming at the neighborhood pool. So why are Special Days so special?
Coming from a family of three active boys individual time is hard to come by. And even when we have those moments - well, they are moments. Being the focus of attention for an entire day is pretty amazing. Having the full attention of two doting grandparents is enough to make any little boy feel like they are, well, special.
Friday, June 20, 2008
Take a closer look. Yup! That would be MY kid! Here's how his first grade teacher described him on his report card:
"Exuberant is a great word for him! No matter what the topic or exercise is - he is exuberant about 'it'. "
This picture sure seems to prove her point.
BB#2 really had a great year. He found some fabulous friends, showed tremendous growth academically, and LOVED school. Absolute success!
However, this year was not as kind to BB#1. He did make some good friends, but had little academic growth (almost a wasted year - grrrr!) Third grade was hard. I'm not sure if it was the move, or the teacher, or the combination, but I'm just glad it's over! On a more positive note, he did FINALLY earned the "Principal's Excellence Award." At least he was able to end feeling good about that.
Monday, June 16, 2008
Wednesday, June 11, 2008
Tuesday, June 3, 2008
Only problem was that it turned out to be awful! The woman working on me sat me in a folding chair, put my feet in a portable foot bath (the kind you get at WalMart) and proceed to insult me the entire time. She criticized my hair, my feet, and my clothes. I gave her a $5 tip and haven't had a pedicure since.
Until Monday. Diamond's brother brought his family for a visit and my nieces really wanted a girl's day - complete with pedicures for everyone. So, I straightened my shoulders and went with them.
It was FABULOUS!!!
The chair gave me a massage, my nieces were delightful company and get this - no one insulted me! (Maybe it helped they didn't speak English so well?)
Once my thoroughly enjoyable pedicure was over, the women who was working with me walked me over to the drying stand and rubbed my shoulders while my toes dried. It was like mint at the end of a delicious meal.
How in the world I allowed one grumpy nail lady to rob me of days like this is beyond me. I'm just glad that my adorable nieces managed to get me back in the massage chair again!
Here are some other pictures of their stay:
The Caboose totally fell in LOVE with our niece. He always wanted her, and he ONLY wanted her. It was really cute - until he started calling her Mom.
We also were able to celebrate my birthday together. It was such a fun weekend with family!
When our Scout leader announced we would be doing a Raingutter Regatta, (the Pine Wood Derby of boats) I was less than thrilled - yet also totally committed to making sure that my kid wouldn't leave the race crying. Consider it emotional blackmail.
My mom researched online how to make a speedy boat. My dad created the catamaran out of the standard boat kit, and Diamond made a sail from a plastic cup. We just wanted to make a decent showing.
BB1's boat started out strong. Before long the other kids were chanting his name while he raced. He said "I like having fans!" (Good to know he's staying humble.) He made it to the Final Race!!! And then...